What is Sex Therapy?
People who seek help with their sexual relationships are frequently left scratching their heads trying to understand what sex therapy is and what a sex therapist does. This confusion is often compounded by our cultures uneasy relationship to sex, sexuality and sexual pleasure. This unfortunately prevents us from learning to accept that sex and sexuality are complex, multidimensional aspects of the human experience and a powerful source of life affirming energy and joy.
Individuals and couples can benefit from sex therapy. People often report that not only has there been an improvement in the quality of sexual intimacy but a deepening trust and emotional connection with their partner(s).
Our sexuality, as well as our understanding of the erotic, is interwoven with the physical, emotional, psychological and spiritual dimensions of being human. At its’ core, sex therapy is about working with individuals and couples to learn new ways to express and explore sexuality in all of the complexity discussed above. This may mean offering education about how to better communicate sexual desire with a partner, for others it may mean focusing on sexual difficulties such as erectile problems, low sexual desire and difficulties with orgasm and pain occurring during sexual activity. A sex therapist may also work with a couple, or individual, to determine how they wish to define and pursue their own definition of optimal sexual functioning and the issues which prevent them from attaining this stated goal.
When a couple, or individual, comes in for sex therapy they can expect a combination of interventions that include:
a) assessment of the presenting issues,
b) assessment of the couple, or individuals, style of relationship,
c) sexuality education,
d) directed therapeutic interventions.
Color is like sex. It’s mysterious. It’s unknowable. It never looks the same twice. No two people see the same thing. No two people feel the same thing”– Stephen Drucker